reposted from LabSpaces in 2010 & there is still a time suck 🙂
OK, I don’t know where the time is going. I finished up my main job early last week with great hopes of becoming a regular blogger….and the time suck continued.
I have been ill so I guess I have to account for some time on the couch. But does daytime TV really suck that much life out of you?
So now that I supposedly don’t have a lot to do, I’m trying to take some time and see what I want to do. What is becoming obvious is how much stress can be caused by SHOULD.
I have to admit, I’m too selfish for a lot of should in my life but I have another story for you:
I overheard two women in a coffee shop a few days ago. They were discussing if one of them should get married. The conclusion was yes because she had been in the relationship for a while and it was expected. I didn’t agree with her reasoning but maybe there are other reasons and she didn’t feel like sharing them at that time. But then they moved onto the subject of having children. The other woman was confessing that she didn’t know if her marriage was the best but that they were going to try for children because that is the next expected step. I don’t know about you but that made me sad…and a little indignant.
I noticed their conversation because I’ve been pondering what I should do next in my life. Lots of people have ‘should’s for me…I should make X money; I should live in X city; I should explore X supposed talent… but how much should is important?
Now, should is good in that it helps to keep order in society. You should be nice to your neighbour, etc. But it bothers me when people make personal decisions based on what their neighbours and family will say. I think should is a major cause of stress. Am I completely off base?